Finding Your Marital North Star

Often times when I work with premarital couples I ask them what characteristics they would like to see in their marriage. I encourage these couples to take time to think about what is important to them in a relationship, write it down and look back on in frequently.  I then talked to couples about using…

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Working On Internal Peace to Experience External Peace.

In this entry I will not be telling anything you don’t already know.  Think of this entry not as something novel but as a reminder of the obviousness that is all around us. We can witness evidence of the following commentary in our every experience. It is your direct experience that you must listen to,…

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What Fidelity is Meant to Protect: Insight from Wendell Berry

Although he may not be a favorite of everyones, Wendell Berry offers insight on a wide variety of matters. From economics, to farming and marriage, Wendell’s thoughtful  commentary encourages us to take a second look at so many things we take for granted. Below I have included one of his quotes from “The Art of…

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So You Want Respect: How to get respect in your relationship

  You don’t have to go very for to hear someone giving his or her opinion on respect. Some will say that respect is something that is earned; that so-and-so has not earned our respect so we will happily keep it to ourselves.  “No respect for you”- soup Nazi style.   We hear people say…

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