Posts Tagged ‘codependency’
Finding Your Marital North Star
Often times when I work with premarital couples I ask them what characteristics they would like to see in their marriage. I encourage these couples to take time to think about what is important to them in a relationship, write it down and look back on in frequently. I then talked to couples about using…
Read MoreLook For Loving In All The Wrong Places: Rekindling love in your marriage
Your task is not to seek for love, but to seek and find all the barriers that you have built against it. Love is your natural state. Your only problem lies in covering it up with cheap substitutes. Our need to be right, expectations of how we think something should be, judgments we project upon…
Read MoreWorking On Internal Peace to Experience External Peace.
In this entry I will not be telling anything you don’t already know. Think of this entry not as something novel but as a reminder of the obviousness that is all around us. We can witness evidence of the following commentary in our every experience. It is your direct experience that you must listen to,…
Read MoreCan Someone Really Make You Feel Bad?: How responsible are you for your own feelings?
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt The above quote is one I refer to often when working with people. The problem is never coming from the other person, but we continuously give away our power by putting the responsibility on someone else. It is difficult to believe…
Read MoreSex Addictions Are Not About Sex: The Truth about sexual addiction
Is sex addiction* really about sex? Is any addiction really about the element to which a particular person feels drawn? People can become drawn to anything, and they do, for that matter. Oftentimes when treating a compulsion we look to eliminate the symptom without looking at the cause. We look to stop the drinking,…
Read MoreSex Addiction: What causes sex addiction?
I wanted to share this video of Ram Dass speaking on the subject of addictions. He has a very simple straight forward way of explaining things and in this video he gives some insight into what motivated people to continue using something even after it has proven to be unhealthy for them. Sexual compulsion is…
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