Posts Tagged ‘finding happiness’
Finding Your Marital North Star
Often times when I work with premarital couples I ask them what characteristics they would like to see in their marriage. I encourage these couples to take time to think about what is important to them in a relationship, write it down and look back on in frequently. I then talked to couples about using…
Read MoreLook For Loving In All The Wrong Places: Rekindling love in your marriage
Your task is not to seek for love, but to seek and find all the barriers that you have built against it. Love is your natural state. Your only problem lies in covering it up with cheap substitutes. Our need to be right, expectations of how we think something should be, judgments we project upon…
Read MoreWorking On Internal Peace to Experience External Peace.
In this entry I will not be telling anything you don’t already know. Think of this entry not as something novel but as a reminder of the obviousness that is all around us. We can witness evidence of the following commentary in our every experience. It is your direct experience that you must listen to,…
Read MoreNot One Thought You Have Is Completely True: Opening to another possibility
“Not one thought you hold is wholly true. The recognition of this is your firm beginning.” – A Course in Miracles (The Problem and the Answer) There once lived 4 blind men who went to visit an elephant. They were all very curious about what exactly an elephant…
Read MoreWhat Fidelity is Meant to Protect: Insight from Wendell Berry
Although he may not be a favorite of everyones, Wendell Berry offers insight on a wide variety of matters. From economics, to farming and marriage, Wendell’s thoughtful commentary encourages us to take a second look at so many things we take for granted. Below I have included one of his quotes from “The Art of…
Read MoreSo You Want Respect: How to get respect in your relationship
You don’t have to go very for to hear someone giving his or her opinion on respect. Some will say that respect is something that is earned; that so-and-so has not earned our respect so we will happily keep it to ourselves. “No respect for you”- soup Nazi style. We hear people say…
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