Posts Tagged ‘Loving Relationship’
Finding Your Marital North Star
Often times when I work with premarital couples I ask them what characteristics they would like to see in their marriage. I encourage these couples to take time to think about what is important to them in a relationship, write it down and look back on in frequently. I then talked to couples about using…
Read MoreLook For Loving In All The Wrong Places: Rekindling love in your marriage
Your task is not to seek for love, but to seek and find all the barriers that you have built against it. Love is your natural state. Your only problem lies in covering it up with cheap substitutes. Our need to be right, expectations of how we think something should be, judgments we project upon…
Read MoreWhat Fidelity is Meant to Protect: Insight from Wendell Berry
Although he may not be a favorite of everyones, Wendell Berry offers insight on a wide variety of matters. From economics, to farming and marriage, Wendell’s thoughtful commentary encourages us to take a second look at so many things we take for granted. Below I have included one of his quotes from “The Art of…
Read MoreSo You Want Respect: How to get respect in your relationship
You don’t have to go very for to hear someone giving his or her opinion on respect. Some will say that respect is something that is earned; that so-and-so has not earned our respect so we will happily keep it to ourselves. “No respect for you”- soup Nazi style. We hear people say…
Read MoreCan Someone Really Make You Feel Bad?: How responsible are you for your own feelings?
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt The above quote is one I refer to often when working with people. The problem is never coming from the other person, but we continuously give away our power by putting the responsibility on someone else. It is difficult to believe…
Read MoreSex Addictions Are Not About Sex: The Truth about sexual addiction
Is sex addiction* really about sex? Is any addiction really about the element to which a particular person feels drawn? People can become drawn to anything, and they do, for that matter. Oftentimes when treating a compulsion we look to eliminate the symptom without looking at the cause. We look to stop the drinking,…
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