Fulfillment in Your Relationship May Come in an Unexpected Way.

A common question I ask people who come in to see me is, “What do you want out of your relationship?”  Many already have a rehearsed list that is easily pulled from their memory banks.    “I want him to listen to me.”   “I want her to give me a blow job more than…

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Am I Foolish for Taking Back My Cheating Spouse?: Wisdom After Cheating

“I feel like I am being a fool for taking her back.  I never saw this coming.  I never thought in a million years that Joy would ever cheat on me. I am beginning to question everything about our relationship and doubt my judgment.” The above statement is a paraphrase contracted from numerous different couples…

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Acting Crazy?: The Sanity in Seeing Our Insanity

When working with people in therapy there comes a time for a number of insightful clients when they have an epiphany.  The epiphany I’m talking about is when they see how their own behavior is having a direct impact on their life. They realize that all this time while they have been blaming others for…

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The Importance of “No”

At a pretty regular rate I will come across a person who is honest enough to admit that they have trouble telling people “no”.  This confession is usually followed with numerous examples where that individual has ended up doing something they did not fully want to do. They logically see the damage that not saying…

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What Fidelity is Meant to Protect: Insight from Wendell Berry

Although he may not be a favorite of everyones, Wendell Berry offers insight on a wide variety of matters. From economics, to farming and marriage, Wendell’s thoughtful  commentary encourages us to take a second look at so many things we take for granted. Below I have included one of his quotes from “The Art of…

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