Counseling
Are You Polluting Your Emotional Space?: How to take back control of how you feel in your environment.
Sometimes its difficult to take a step back and look at how our actions and attitude are affecting our environment. It’s easy to see how someone else could change their behavior and make everything else better. My teacher once told me that we create the atmosphere around us. This advice came to me during a…
Read MoreHow Well Do We Really See Our Relationships?: Finding your blind spot
“Understand that you do not respond to anything directly, but to your interpretation of it. Your interpretation thus becomes the justification for the response.” ACIM, Chapter 12, paragraph 1 I enjoy reading “A Course in Miracles” because it always seems to give me a different way of interpreting things in my life. Lately,…
Read MoreSo You Want Respect: How to get respect in your relationship
You don’t have to go very for to hear someone giving his or her opinion on respect. Some will say that respect is something that is earned; that so-and-so has not earned our respect so we will happily keep it to ourselves. “No respect for you”- soup Nazi style. We hear people say…
Read MoreHow to Give Better Advice to Your Friends and Family.
We all have those people in our lives that seem to have the natural gift of giving good advice. I know I do. Just because I have them in my life doesn’t mean I always seek out their input on difficult situations. Sometimes I will seek out the advice of a friend I know…
Read MoreWhat Do You Do When Others Lie About You?: Why You Don’t Need to Defend Yourself
The urge to defend ourselves is second nature for many people. We feel if we don’t stand up for our beliefs, our identities, our honor (as it were) that we will appear weak or worse yet, we are afraid it means we are weak. The illusion that the strong defend themselves against slander and…
Read MoreCan Someone Really Make You Feel Bad?: How responsible are you for your own feelings?
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt The above quote is one I refer to often when working with people. The problem is never coming from the other person, but we continuously give away our power by putting the responsibility on someone else. It is difficult to believe…
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