Simple Marriage Advice

    There are  a few pieces of advice I find very helpful when working with couples in my office. People are often not as bad off as they think. The key is to get them to really listen to what is under the complaining.  Getting them to calm down so they can hear is…

Read More

Tragedy, How Can It Help a Marriage

    Great tragedy, like an affair, penetrates directly to our most guarded areas, tearing away our protective ideals and comfortable apathy and leaving us vulnerable to the elements of our environment.  We are left to grieve the loss of what could have been.  “We could have had a marriage free of adultery”.   Many…

Read More

Four Signs That Your Marriage is Headed for Divorce

            Despite what many of us believe, disagreements and conflict in a relationship are not necessarily bad.   When anger is vented in a constructive, healthy manner it can be a great way to help the couple understand their relationship better and get it to a healthier place. What is…

Read More

Does Knowing Yourself Affect Your Relationship

  Who are you? What makes you, you? Does having a good understanding of yourself affect how you relate to others?  All great questions that can be tricky to answer. If you are out on a first date getting to know someone else we are likely to ask a series of questions in hopes of…

Read More

Dear Tara, Lost in the Struggle

  Dear Tara, I am so tired of struggling in my life. It seems like everything I touch goes wrong.  A year and a half ago I left my husband of 15 years because he was cheating on me excessively.  It seemed like there was nothing that I could do to save the marriage so…

Read More

Disguises of Infidelity- The many ways we are unfaithful

  In our American culture we show great lenience for divorce, an event that causes immense pain and often a complete breakdown of loyalty, respect and trust not only between two people but the whole family; yet our tolerance for sexual infidelity is low and habitually takes an unwavering, punitive stance.   We measure the…

Read More